Thousands of adults go through a divorce in Washington state every year, meaning that thousands of children go through the process of divorce as well. While divorce is no doubt hard on the adults going through it, it can have potentially catastrophic effects on children if not handled well. Many responsible parents want to ensure that the divorce goes as smoothly as possible for their children. Fortunately, it is also possible to come out of a divorce with well-adjusted, happy kids on the other side of it. According to Aha! Parenting, working together with your soon-to-be ex-spouse is key to helping your children navigate to divorce successfully.

Of course, depending on how acrimonious your divorce is, this may not be possible. But even if you do not get along with your soon-to-be ex-spouse, realize that you and this other person are going to be in it for the long haul where your children are concerned. Try to create a positive relationship around this parenting agreement, even if nothing about your relationship is good. This means doing your best to avoid fighting with your ex, even when the divorce gets rough. Remember that this other person is still your child’s other parent, no matter how soured the relationship has become between you and the other parent.

It is natural for you to have some bitter feelings toward your soon-to-be ex-spouse throughout the divorce process, but try to establish a healthy outlet for these feelings. You may enjoy speaking with a trusted peer or family member about potential negativity or potentially going to a professional therapist. But no matter how negative you may feel, keep it away from your children.